Oh, the energy you waste trying to be ‘cool’…

“But it works!” you think…

So much money, time, energy spent to cover up yourself…

It’s really just one big distraction. And you know it.

But you do it, because heaven forbid you (or anyone else) finds out who you really are.

BEING ‘COOL’ IS BULLSHIT.

And you don’t need to believe me, believe yourself.

What do you actually think about the part of you that wants to look good all the time?

Where are you actually amidst the sea of hidden feelings, and normalized thoughts?

Do you even remember what it feels like to have your own thoughts in your bathtub of worry?

The truth is that the coolest thing is being yourself, which means not caring about what anyone thinks, yet our brains like to get it the other way around. It comes back to this age-old - actually millennia old - part of our brains that thinks we’re going to die if we’re different. Because we would die, in the wilderness, trying to fend for ourselves, without our tribe.

How about now? In the city, without your friends, would you die?

Basically yes - lonliness is worse than smoking a pack a day, which leaves you left at a crossroads…

You need your friends, so you act ‘cool’ (just like you did in high school) to try to keep them.Little does your subconscious brain know, the most attractive thing - the thing that deepens friendships - isn’t trying to be ‘cool’…

It’s actually not trying at all.

BEING COOL ACTUALLY LOOKS LIKE:

  • Wearing the clothes you want to wear, that are a little bit different.

  • Eating what you want, when you want, no matter how ‘weird’ you feel.

  • Talking about whatever, whenever, without a care in the world.

More generally:

TIME IN RELATIONSHIP

HONESTY

You don’t need to try for either of these things - well actually you do…

You need to try to not avoid relationships, and to not lie…

THE LESS YOU COVER UP YOUR ACTUAL THOUGHTS AND SELF, EXPOSING YOUR TRUE SELF IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS… THE CLOSER YOU WILL BECOME TO YOUR FRIENDS AND THEM TO YOU - THE ‘COOLER’ YOU WILL ACTUALLY BE.

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